Transference - is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another
Our mother always told us that if we found someone we didn't like,it was probably because of something of ourselves we saw in them........ teaching us about transference early.
And I HATED it everytime she said it.
So when I find someone that I dislike because they're bossy....ouch.
So when I find someone that I dislike because they're opinionated ....ouch.
So when I find someone that I dislike because they're a bully.... no, I am not a bully, everyone does or should dislike this.
But you see my point.
Okay, you know how I always give you a job to do...here it is.
Think of someone you dislike and see how they are like you.
YES THEY ARE.
Honesty is the key here. It's not fun....but all this unfun stuff is suppose to be character building and don't we all want to be 'character-ful'?